Whom you date, tells a lot about your personality. Yes, you read that right. It can say how you value yourself, and most importantly what you think about yourself. Can’t agree with this? Well, then you should certainly ask yourself: What does my relationship say about me? Don’t be judgmental here. Instead, consider it a genuine self-reflection. A question that will finally give you answers to some of the questions you have been asking all along.
How would you react, if…
Imagine this: An acquaintance happened to meet your partner, and tells you this – “I can tell how much you love yourself by the partner you’ve chosen.” How would you react to this? Will you take it as a compliment, or an insult? Do you feel proud hearing that, or did it sting a little? The answer to this question changes everything.
The person you date is a resume of your self-esteem
The person you choose to spend your time with is not random. It says everything about your self esteem. This person is rather a reflection of what you internally believe about your own worth. It’s kind of a resume. The compromises you make, the red flags you overlook, the ‘sacrifices’ you make, all these are going to be etched on that resume. When you have low self-esteem, it reflects in the relationship standards you set. You end up tolerating behavior you can’t agree with, because you have already convinced yourself that you don’t deserve more. You are okay to settle for the bread crumbs, instead of a feast. You try to shrink, and fit into spaces that were never meant to contain your full potential.On the other hand, when you truly love and respect yourself, you naturally attract equal partners, who share those values. For instance, if you respect your body, you won’t fall for someone who treats their body like trash. You will only attract people who treat you well, because you know that you deserve to be treated well. Now, think about it. When someone tells you that your partner is quite similar to you, will you take it as a compliment? If not, it may be its time to take a step back, and set your standards right. Recalibrate the thought. You deserve more, not less. So, are you willing to rewrite it? If yes, you already know what you have to do. Raise your bars, and do not settle for anything less. Because you deserve the best.
